Life as a Spiritual Being -- Excerpts from Chapter 7
- If you espouse the worldview of the previous chapter rather than that of Chapter 3, how would this change your life? Completely and in every department of your identity: relationship with self, with how you perceive deity, and with others (romantic, platonic, family, co-workers, children, pets and deceased loved ones). Is that enough?
- The spiritual path is not a "doing" thing, for that leads to spiritual ego and spiritual ambition. It also separates the seeker from that which is sought, which is True Self. The real spiritual path involves getting little self out of the way and dissolving the blocks to love. Then, you can allow True Self to embrace you, and self to merge with Self.
- Also, "searching" implies that the path and Self are "out there" somewhere, when, in fact, they are very much "in here." Worse, you create the illusory "out there," so you would actually be chasing your own illusions, much like a dog chasing its tail-not a productive exercise and you get dizzy. Of course, you must interact with "out there," but do not confuse it with anything Real; the only Reality is within you, and it is the unconditional love of your True Self.
Relationship with Self
- Again, love is not a "doing" but a "being" state, and all you need do for a life as a spiritual being is remove the fears that block love's flow and the indwelling presence of your True Self. And that Self "fits over" your physical body, which you borrow temporarily from Mother Nature. Anyone who has had an out-of-body or near-death experience will confirm that you are fully functioning and aware, even though detached from physical form.
- When you look in the mirror, you are seeing only a tiny fraction of who you are-a physical body. But you now know that's not all you are. That body is just a temporary focal point for your soul and a system of muscles and levers for getting things done to sustain that soul's exploration.
Your Relationship With Self … Again
First, who are you? To summarize, the gestalt that is you consists of:
- Soul fragment, in intimate contact with your main soul entity and, as needed, with the other incarnations of that entity (let's just call it "soul" from now on). This fragment of soul is a vibration transmitted from the soul plane into the mind and, analogous to a complex TV signal, conveys personality, soul vibration, and memories of all other incarnations.
- Physical body, to which your soul attached sometime between conception and birth
- Mind, an awesome non-physical electromagnetic structure for thought processing. This attaches to the brain at several points, including the limbic area at the junction of the two hemispheres and the brain stem.
- Emotions, which soul uses to guide your mind in its decision-making by moving various energies around your body via the meridians, chakras, and the endocrine system. This Emotional Guidance System (EGS) and the mind are probably the most underrated and ignored marvels in all of Creation, which is why so many species of ET are here studying us. Your EGS is an invaluable but greatly underestimated resource that needs honing.
How We Block Love
We block love in dozens of ways, all of them laid down during childhood by how we interpreted our perceptions of how our parents treated us. Here are just a few:
- Unwillingness to deal with feelings-if we felt hurt, we suppressed our emotions, which means all of them, pleasant and unpleasant.
- Not feeling deserving of love-one way to deal with lack of love as a child was to convince yourself that you were unworthy of it, so you didn't expect it, and were not hurt when it didn't come.
- I don't need love-another coping mechanism was to reinvent yourself as a rugged individualist who didn't need anyone else, especially if you're male, because the culture encouraged this.
- I've had my shot at love and won't get a second-in other words, I screwed up the first time and must now receive my punishment.
- If I open to love, I will get hurt-that's always a chance in anything we try.
A major source of low self-esteem was the trauma of birth, in which you were squeezed almost to death and ejected from the womb, into the harshness of the outer world. Not only is this traumatic first experience of the world recorded in your Subconscious Mind, but it may be interpreted as punishment, not for something you have done but for what you are-unworthy. So your very first self-image was one of unworthiness, and this still sits deep in your Subconscious, ready to be called up and reinforced whenever you do something dumb as an adult.
Unconditional Love in your life as a spiritual being
- There's no middle ground with this-love is either unconditional or conditional, and the latter is simply bartering attention to get something you want.
- If I love you unconditionally, you do not need to earn it, pass any tests, win any contests, or in any way deserve it. If you did need to prove your worth, you have tenure only until someone more worthy comes along-bluer eyes, whiter teeth, better cook, etc.
- Unconditional love says, "You can be who you really are, and share your deepest thoughts, fears and feelings in absolute surety that I won't judge you or stop loving you. We may agree to disagree on things but I will never reject you, for I am committed to your well-being and growth."
- When it comes to growth, how can one person support another? By criticizing, nit-icking, and pointing out flaws? Obviously not, but that's how most parents approach child-rearing; "Eat all your greens or mommy won't love you." That's flat-out manipulation but we carry that into adulthood, with "love" as a reward for a well-prepared meal or a promotion.
- Many people use "love" to coerce a mate into conforming to their opinion of how the mate should be (just watch a few movies on the Lifetime Channel). Such "love" forces the mate to contract and shrink into a little box, often with the justification, "I love you and want only what's best for you." This really means: "… what's best for me." On the other hand, unconditional love encourages expansion and growth, which brings us to how love really works.
1. Love Allows
- First, love allows itself to flow. Love isn't a "doing" thing, but an allowing thing. Imagine love as water, and you're a hose. How big a hose are you? A tiny tube used in an irrigation drip-watering system? A standard garden hose? A fireman's hose? Or a huge pipeline? This obviously determines how much love can flow through you, which increases with practice. Next, are there any kinks or blockages stopping the flow? As an adult, your flow rate depends on how you were loved in the womb and then as a child. If, in those early years, you picked up some kinks and blockages, you have some work to do, as we saw earlier.
- Love also allows the beloved to be who he or she is, without seeking to change him or her, except for encouraging growth. We all know that it's impossible to change others; only they can change themselves but plenty of people do try … and end up exhausted and frustrated. It's about as pointless as mud-wrestling a pig---it's hard slippery work, and besides, the pig likes it.
2. Love Cares
- Love cares about the happiness of the beloved and constantly reminds him or her of how special and important he or she is to you. Love says, "You are valuable to me; I care about you and will do whatever I can to ensure your happiness."
3. Love Respects
- When you respect those you love, you honor them, are honest with them, let them be who they are without trying to change them, and want what is in their highest and best interest.
4. Love Forgives
- All of us incarnate to learn, grow and explore, and we inevitably screw up somewhere along the way and hurt someone else. If someone harms you, you have two options: (1) you can hold a grudge, or (2) you can forgive. Clearly, the first harms you further and gives all your power to the very person who harmed you, allowing that person to determine how you will feel.
- The second option allows you to move on, free of other people's energy, knowing that "they will get theirs" in their life review. You'll also live longer and healthier. However, the other person doesn't just walk away. They must be made to understand how you were harmed by their actions and offer a sincere apology and promise that it won't happen again. If they are spiritual, they will be eager to learn the consequences of a hurtful word or deed … otherwise there's always the court system. And if that deed stemmed from malicious intent rather than an innocent accident, the apology had better be good.
- If you're the miscreant, it's essential to own the deed, without finger-pointing or blame. Fess up and accept the consequences of your actions. And preferably apologize before you're found out. Suppose a friend confides a secret in you and you have too much to drink and blurt it out. Apologize before word gets back to your friend, who may then still have some respect for you.
5. Love Encourages
- Most of us have untapped strengths and potentials, and only discover these when slammed by some major Life Challenge. And if we run around "fixing" things for our friends and loved ones, we're simply enabling their victim-ness. Instead, love encourages others to find the strength and courage to tap their own potential, confidence and abilities to grasp life by the horns. Love en-courages others to explore the grandest expression of who they can be. And rather than nay-saying, love says, "Go for it! You can do it!"
6. Love Challenges
- Love's final gift is to challenge the other to rise and stretch to achieve a goal or blast through a self-limitation, and thereby grow. Love's encouragement reveals the strength or ability; love's challenge calls it into action. Love says, "You have the vision of your grandest expression, so now become that expression."
Given that love allows, cares, respects, forgives, encourages and challenges, in your life as a spiritual being, the trick is to blend these ingredients in just the right proportion, or things won't balance. And the best way to avoid imbalance is communication. Ask, "How does it make you feel when I encourage you to find a better job?" or, "How does it make you feel when I dare you to ______?" Finding the right mixture of allowing, caring, encouraging and challenging is not easy, and both partners must communicate openly and frequently … for that, too, is part of growth.
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|How It All Began (1)|
|Life on the Soul Plane (2)|
|The God Myth (3)|
|The Jesus Conspiracy (4)|
|Earth Life Preparation (5)|
|Earth School (6)|
|Life as a Spiritual Being (7)|
|Soulful Relationships (8)|
|Working with Energy (9)|
|Being an Old Soul (11)|
|Life in a Spiritual Society (12)|
|The Other Side (14)|
|The Shift (15)|
|Divine Alignment (16)|
|Becoming Soul-centered (17)|